A ll Jessica wanted was a doctor who would treat her like everyone else. A doctor who was comfortable with her self-identification as queer - a term sometimes used as an umbrella for any variation of lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender orientation. But it wasn't until she moved to Boston, in her 30s, that she was ready to even try to look for one. Before that, "the only office I went to was the dentist,'' said the Jamaica Plain resident, who asked to be identified only by her first name to protect her privacy. Despite overall strides in the attitudes toward people who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender many argue that the medical community has lagged behind.